Monday, April 23, 2012

Oughts and Shoulds

She craves attention because she is large, yes, she is big. I am mocking her size (I am not thin, but then again I am not incredibly obese). Yes, she is obese, but it has taken me some time to finally realize how 'small' this person really is. She is full of contradictions and is infected with misery. Her attachment to her isolated existence is a manifestation of her fear of happiness. Unfortunately, 'unhappy' in this person's life has virtue attached to it. Failed relationships, multiple breakdowns, suicide attempts - it is not happiness that she should crave, but the pursuit of it. The chase is the aim.

The King James version of the Bible appeared in the same year as the first advertised performance of The Tempest. This is what I tell people who feel the need to tell me how 'good' so-and-so is ... Please - give me a break! Didn't you attempt to kill yourself because of this crass individual! (See The Façade.) Married, divorced, and then remarried to the same man again (part of the working-class men who want their women at home) - by your own admission 'for financial reasons' ... There is nothing wrong with marrying your ex again, but don't bitch non-stop about how he makes you sick. You're tired of his bullshit. You were tired when you were married to him the first time around, what made you think things would be different the second time?

Happiness is not a luxury, or an option, or for a select few people in this world. Happiness is a state of mind. Get the hell out of the house and do something! It isn’t a hiding place. It is a finding place. Break out of the predictable confines of your existence - rid yourself of "oughts" and "musts" and "shoulds" - live everyday as if it will be your last. Doing the same things every day, repeating the same routines day after day, worrying about the future (that isn't here yet), etc. is not going to make you feel better.

I know what it feels like to be depressed. It prevents you from enjoying and living your life to the fullest, it affects your mood, enthusiasm - you miss out on the sun, the moon, the stars, the sky, etc. Please don't make excuses. It is what it is. It shouldn't take you a whole weekend to wash two dishes ... it was Friday when you mentioned your cousin passed away (not Wednesday). Losing all sense of time (not knowing what day it is) ...

It helps to look at depression as a gift because it forces you to work on yourself ...

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Do-gooders doing good ...

I was asked recently (during holy week), "Irene, don't you fast?" My reply, "No, I do not fast for 40 days. Does fasting make you a 'better' person? Does my decision not to fast make me a bad person?"

I did not receive a reply to my reply ...

“After all these years, I see that I was mistaken about Eve in the beginning; it is better to live outside the Garden with her than inside it without her.” ― Mark Twain, The Diaries of Adam & Eve

I get a kick of these do-gooders. You know - the 'pious' types ... Sanctimonious Jesus fans. Holier than thou assholes whose main concern in life is virtue or religious devotion. When I die, and - hopefully - get an opportunity to meet Jesus - I will ask him what his opinion of do-gooders is ...

Do-gooders doing good. Why do hypocrites feel the need to announce their deeds? There are many people who do good without having to tell everyone (only those who donate to charities anonymously can relate to what I am talking about).

These religious fans are the fans that Jesus seems to have the most trouble with. Fans who will walk into a restaurant and bow their heads to pray before a meal just in case someone is watching. Fans who won't go to R-rated movies at the theater, but have a number of them saved on their DVR at home. Fans who may feed the hungry and help the needy, and they make sure they work it into every conversation for the next two weeks. Fans who make sure people see them put in their offering at church, but they haven't considered reaching out to their neighbor who lost a job and can't pay the bills. Fans who like seeing other people fail because in their minds it makes them look better. Fans whose primary concern is what other people think. Fans who are reading this and assuming I'm describing someone else. Fans who have worn the mask for so long they have fooled even themselves ...

The Façade

I love musicals. One of my all-time favorites is Jekyll & Hyde (based on the novel by Robert Louis Stevenson). Stevenson stated that the central problem is Jekyll's hypocricy. It's an excellent parody of the Victorian Era because of its piercing description of the 19th century - outward respectability and inward lust - as this period had a tendency for social hypocrisy.

The story explores the psychopathology of the split personality in Dr Jekyll, whose development of a potion to separate good from evil transforms him into the murderous Mr Hyde. Good and evil ...

Below are the lyrics to the beautiful number Façade ... While we are not living in the Victorian Era, social hypocrisy still exists.

Façade

There's a face that we wear
In the cold light of day -
It's society's mask,
It's society's way,
And the truth is
That it's all a façade!

There's a face that we hide
Till the nighttime appears,
And what's hiding inside,
Behind all of our fears,
Is our true self,
Locked inside the façade!

Every day
People, in their own sweet way,
Like to add a coat of paint,
And be what they ain't!

That's how our little -
Game is played,
Livin' like a masquerade
Actin' a bizarre charade -
While playing the saint!

But there's one thing I know,
And I know it for sure:
This disease that we've got
Has got no ready cure!
And I'm certain
Life is terribly hard -
When your life's a façade!

Look around you!
I have found
You cannot tell, by lookin' at the surface,
What is lurkin' there beneath it!
See that face!
Now, I'm prepared to bet you,
What you see's not what you get -
'Cause man's a master of deceit !

So, what is the sinister secret?
The lie he will tell you is true? -
It's that each man you meet
In the street
Isn't one man but two!

Nearly everyone you see -
Like him an' her,
An' you, an' me -
Pretends to be
A pillar of society -
A model for propriety -
Sobriety
An' piety -
Who shudders at the thought
Of notoriety!

The ladies an' gents 'ere before you -
Which none of 'em ever admits -
May 'ave saintly looks -
But they're sinners an' crooks!

Hypocrites!
Hypocrites!

There are preachers who kill!
There are killers who preach!
There are teachers who lie!
There are liars who teach!
Take yer pick, dear -
"Cause it's all a façade!

If we're not one, but two,
Are we evil or good?
Do we walk the fine line -
That we'd cross if we could?
Are we waiting -
To break through the façade?

One or two
Might look kinda well-to-do -
Hah! They're bad as me an' you,
Right down to they're boots!

I'm inclined to think -
Half of mankind
Thinks the other half is blind!
Wouldn't be surprise to find -
They're all in cahoots!

At the end of the day,
They don't mean what they say,
They don't say what they mean,
They don't ever come clean -
And the answer -
Is it's all a façade!
Is it's all a façade!
Man is not one, but two,
He is evil and good,
An' he walks the fine line
We'd all cross if we could!

It's a nightmare -
We can never discard -
So we stay on our guard -
Though we love the façade -
What's behind the façade?
Look behind the façade!

Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Robertson (Christian Hypocrite/s), Part II

Gee ... when I saw the headline I thought Pat was finally going to come out.

What does Pat Robertson think Jesus was doing for all those undocumented years between ages 12 and 30 and then going about selecting only men to hang out with him, encouraging some to even leave their wives? Wasn't Jesus single too? It's possible, who really knows, but Robertson just might be calling Jesus "demonically possessed" ...

Let's pray - Call my Prayer line (Code for, "Give me your money") ...

Everything Jesus stood for is against everything the church does stand for. He would have a fit if he saw how things are today in the church that presumes to tell people this is what he would have wanted. The church is just a con, perpetuated on the masses to keep them meek, to control them, and to keep the donations pouring in ... Just like any other cult.

All this bible mumbo-jumbo just bores the immoral hades out of me. It's so full of hatred, contradictions, (read the Old Testament), etc. that it's ridiculous.

Thomas Jefferson wrote of Christianity, "Millions of innocent men, women and children, since the introduction of Christianity, have been burned, tortured, fined and imprisoned. What has been the effect of this coercion? To make one half the world fools and the other half hypocrites; to support roguery and error all over the earth ... "

Robertson is a - Ted Haggard / Paul Barnes / Lonnie Latham - that hasn't been caught. (There are many other hypocrites desguised as preachers that I could list, but I am getting a little tired of typing). For those of you who never heard of Ted Haggard, Paul Barnes or Lonnie Latham, see below (for entertainment purposes):

Ted Haggard

Ted Haggard was the pastor of the New Life Church in Colorado Springs, Colorado and was the president of the National Association of Evangelicals (NAE) from 2003 until November 2006. Haggard's position allowed him occasional access to President George W. Bush. In 2006 it was alleged that Haggard had been regularly visiting a male prostitute who also provided him with methamphetamine. Haggard admitted his wrongdoing and resigned as pastor of New Life church and as president of the NAE. The high-profile case was significant also because it immediately preceded the 2006 mid-term elections. In January 2009, Haggard admitted to a second homosexual relationship with a male church member on CNN-TV and other national media, and when asked, would not directly answer a question about his other possible homosexual relationships. This asshole recently started a new church.

Paul Barnes

Paul Barnes is the founder and former senior minister of the evangelical church Grace Chapel in Douglas County, Colorado. He confessed his homosexual activity to the church board, and his resignation was accepted on 7 December 2006. This scandal was notable because it was similar to Ted Haggard's (above), it occurred in the same state (Colorado) and around the same time (late 2006). This asshole was in charge of this church for 28 years.

Lonnie Latham

In 2006, Latham, the senior pastor of South Tulsa Baptist Church and a member of the powerful Southern Baptist Convention Executive Committee, was arrested for "offering to engage in an act of lewdness" with a male undercover police officer.

Truth or Consequences

"In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our responsibility." - Eleanor Roosevelt

Present: ... someone that others have the 'misfortune' of working with is disliked by many people at work.

I often ask myself, what motivates people? What motivates the 'disliked' co-worker? Is it money? I believe so. We all want to make money, but at what cost? Is it worth it? We could all do with a bit more money, but again - is it worth it?

"It's good to have money and the things that money can buy, but it's good, too, to check up once in a while and make sure that you haven't lost the things that money can't buy." –George Lorimer

What are some of the things that money can't buy? Your dignity, reputation, pride, etc.

In the past 25 years, I have noticed that the workers who are disliked the most are 'brown-nosers' ... They are the individuals who try to collect as many 'brownie points' as possible in an effort to further their career, make more money, etc.

After I am finished asking myself, what motivates people, the second question that I often ask myself is, does this person realize that every choice he/she makes has a consequence? If we make good choices, the results are almost always positive. If we make bad choices, the results are always negative. I believe every day is a learning experience. If we make bad decisions, it's okay - as long as we learn something from same ...

I have made some pretty bad decisions that had terrible consequences. But I learned valuable lessons. Nobody is perfect. We are entitled to make mistakes in life. However, if we keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again, then there is something wrong. After a while it gets old ...

Only time will tell ...

Robertson (Christian hypocrite/s), Part I

Pat Robertson, the holier-than-thou preacher and host of the 700 Club is at it again. In his most recent broadcast, he proposed that homosexuality is related to a type of "demonic possession." I am convinced more every day that these "preachers" who are always yammering about homosexuals are fighting it in themselves. Otherwise they might find some much worse sins to preach against.

One cannot simultaneously claim to live a pious, all loving, Christian life while spewing hate for one group of people. Mr. Robertson, you are a hypocrtite and a very poor representative of the Christian faith. Aren't you the asshole who got his start by fooling old ladies into handing over their meager savings so you could enrich yourself?

Robertson's claim came during a segment about a man who, according to Robertson, "trolled the streets" for seven years looking for "cheap sex with other men" while his wife sat at home "completely clueless." In response to the man's story, Robertson says:

"The world today says 'OK, so you are gay, you want to have affairs with men -- that's cool. You have an absolute right to do that, why not?' That's not the right attitude. The attitude is that this is sin. It's wrong. And [this man] realized it was wrong but couldn't control it. But that type of conduct is wrong … he is obsessed. He has a compulsion. I would think that it is somehow related to demonic possession…" Even assholes have opinions ...

I welcome anyone to quote/translate any passages from the bible - feel free to leave a comment. If you do, my response (in advance) is below:

A) Yet another "translation" of a book that's supposed to be immutable. Lie.

B) We no longer live in a nomadic desert tribe and we no longer believe that the male gamete* is solely responsible for new life and that it is a finite resource. Mosaic Law is not applicable to modern society. If it were, you couldn't have enjoyed that last trip to the salon, Hair Cuttery.
{*gamete - from the Greek gamete "a wife" and ... gametes "a husband"}

C) Paul is not the basis of Christianity. You are not a Paulian.

D) John is not the basis of Christianity. You are not a Johnite.

E) CHRIST never said anything about it. Read your big black book of bippity-boppity-boo again instead of just quoting it at people. Adherence to Mosaic Law was a point of contention in early Christianity because early converts were largely Greek gentiles that had never observed Mosaic Law, which is WHY Christ got rid of it.

F) Not everyone believes the same way you do. It is NOT your job to judge anyone or to tell them how to live their lives. Period. End of story.

Below is a beautiful quote by Christoper Hitchens (see prior post R.I.P. Hitch):

"Nothing optional - from homosexuality to adultery - is ever made punishable unless those who do the prohibiting (and exact the fierce punishments) have a repressed desire to participate. As Shakespeare put it in King Lear, the policeman who lashes the whore has a hot need to use her for the very offense for which he plies the lash."
- Christopher Hitchens, God is Not Great: How Religion Poisons Everything

Hey Pat, uh ... Mr. Robertson - are you dreaming of little boys again? Why don't you do what your good friend Jimmy Swaggart did? Why don't you go to a gay bar (or your church), pick up a man, and get it over with. Your facination with homosexuality can only lead people to believe that deep down inside you would like to have some fun with a man. Pat, do you remember what happened to your friend and fellow hypocrite Jimmy?

A detective tracked Swaggart to a sleazy motel (along Airline Highway), alerted Gorman (another preacher/hyprocrite) to the situation and then let the air out of one of Swaggart's tires to slow his getaway. Gorman found Swaggart fixing the flat. "He was wearing a sweat suit," Gorman was quoted as saying, "so that kind of does away with the theory that he was ministering to somebody."

That was a theory Swaggart didn't even try to float. Confronted by pictures of himself and a prostitute, he reportedly admitted, in a 10-hour session with church elders, at least this much: that he had paid her to perform pornographic acts, and that he had had a fascination with pornography since childhood.

A member of Swaggart's church put it well, "How could he stand up there in the pulpit and preach against adultery and promiscuity when he was doing that kind of thing all this time? I think he ought to stay out of the pulpit." (Swaggart did not confess to any specific transgression but did admit to an encounter with a New Orleans prostitute.)


Mr. Robertson, Mr. Swaggart, Mr. Gorman (and all Christian hypocrites), shut the f#@k up assholes!!!